How to Deal with Sex Regret
There are many reasons that may cause you to regret having sex with someone. What may seem like a good idea at the time, can be perceived quite differently in the cold light of day. It may be that you went to bed with an ex-partner during a moment of weakness and you had thought you were moving on with your life. Maybe you’re just not as into someone as you thought you were and after having sex with them you experienced a moment of clarity.
Sex Outside of Your Relationship
A lot of people seek sexual fulfilment elsewhere whilst already married or long-term relationship. By doing this, you maybe be overwhelmed by a sense of guilt, shame, and anger. Not only that, but you may now be feel anxious as to whether to tell your existing partner because it may very well destroy the relationships you have built. If this is the case, well, there’s not much you can do at this point other than face your problems head on.
Regretting a One-Night Stand
If this was a case that you regret having a casual encounter with someone that you are unlikely to see again, it may be best to just chalk this up as experience and move on with your life. You can learn from your mistake and think of it as a blessing. However, if this was a sexual relationship that took place with a long-time friend, you may have to figure out how to deal with things go forward. Things can become quite messy in situations like this, especially if you share the same friendship circle. You may feel nervous about talking to them in future, but facing your fears as soon as possible will give you less time to worry about the outcomes. More often not it’s better to face the challenges you have in life head-on. Avoiding your friend will serve to make things worse in the future, it’s not like you’ll be able to dodge their company for ever.
Talking Things Over
Take the opportunity to speak to your one-night lay as soon as you can and let them know how you’d like to move things forward from now. You do not need to be too forceful as this may cause upset and lead to bad feelings between the two of you. The last thing you want is to have seed of awkwardness planted in your relationship that presents itself whenever you’re around each other. It’s best if you make sure that you leave the conversation with understanding of what happened and if such a thing would be happening again. If you can do this, you’ll be able to clear the air and forge a future in which the two of you can simply get on with your lives.
Once the issues are dealt with, there is no need to dwell on them. Remember, most people have had experiences they’d rather forget about, so you’re not alone in that. Life is about falling over and getting back it, it’s all part of the fun. The truth is, once some time has passed, whatever happened between you and your friend will become a non-issue.