Making The First Move In Sex
Are you feel uncomfortable when it comes to initiating sex? Don’t worry, we’ve all been there at some point. The best way to get over this fear is to get used to it; practice, practice, and more practice. After a while, you’ll no longer feel nervous when it comes to initiating sex, but you’ll have to go through a lot of uncomfortable situations to rid yourself of your worries. One of the things that hold people back in the bedroom is being unsure about how their lovers’ will react. Maybe you’re worried about how they’ll feel if you touch them in a certain place or even grabbing them too hard; this is especially true if this is a new sexual partner. The funny thing is, the more you worry, the worse your nerves will get.
The Fear Of Rejection
If you want to get over your anxiousness, you must let go of the fear of rejection. Everybody feels awkward at times, that’s normal; we never want to overstep our boundaries or push too hard. However, sometimes in life, you have to be bold with what you want; just make sure that you’re able to read the room. If reading body language is something you find difficult, try opening up a line of communication between you and your lover so you can avoid any confusion.
Here are some of the things you can look out for if you’re trying to figure out if a girl wants to make a move on you:
• She touches you often and likes to be physically close to you.
• She plays with her hair.
• She laughs at your rubbish jokes.
• She doesn’t break eye contact with you.
• She keeps looks at your lips.
The fear of rejection isn’t something that only happens when we meet someone new. It’s possible to fear rejection with someone that you’re in a relationship with. This fear could arise for many reasons; maybe you’ve recently had an argument, been distant, or worried about your partner’s fidelity. However, you must keep in mind that our brain has a way of overworking itself, which can cause us to have irrational fears due to our own confidence issues. That being said, this doesn’t mean that your relationship isn’t facing a real crisis. If you feel as though something is amiss, you must find a way to face it head on so that you can move forward.
Knowing Your Partner’s Sexual Desires
We all want to know where our partner stands when it comes to sex. Maybe you have kinks that your partner isn’t ready to explore yet; nonetheless, if this is the case, there’s no harm in bringing it up, who knows, your partner may be willing to explore it. Sex is a two-way street. There may be things that your partner is into that you have no interest in trying out, if that’s the case, let it be known.
Just Do It
Being able to make the first move and initiating things in your life will do you a whole heap of good in the long-term. You’ll become a lot more confident, and not just in the bedroom. Don’t hold yourself back for imagined disappointment, make the first move. We’ve found that it helps some people to ‘hope’ for rejection. By turning it into a game, you’ll be able to ease the pressures that you put on yourself during moments of intimacy.