What Does It Mean to be an Incel?
Involuntary Celibates, otherwise known as incels are a self-identifying group (mostly males). Many of these guys seem to resent the world because of their inability to find a sexual partner. Incels believe that no matter what they do, there isn’t a woman on Earth that’ll give them the time of day in the bedroom. Although they could pay for sex, what they want is for a woman to genuinely desire them.
Within the manosphere, there are metaphoric pills that help distinguish one group of people from another. The three that we know of are:
The Blue Pill: To be blue-pilled means to have an idealistic view of the world, a view that isn’t based in reality.
The Red Pill: To be red-pilled means to see the world for how it truly is, despite everything you’ve been taught.
The Black Pill: To be black-pilled is to become aware of the truth shown by the red pill, but rather than fight against the system, you give up.
Those who’ve taken the metaphorical black pill are those who identify themselves as incels. The internet is a place where you can meet people who are facing the same issues as you. Finding others like yourself will allow you to share your experiences and exchange coping tips. However, if you don’t seek guidance from outside of the group, the advice recieved can become very toxic.
What Are the Implications of Being an Incel?
Those who have identified themselves as an incel have accepted the fact that sex is off the table for them. This mindset can create a vicious cycle that shapes all of your thoughts, feelings, and actions. The thing is, by giving up hope, you’re giving up the power to change your life. Sure, it’s easy to tell someone to get off their ass and turn their life around, but what other choice is there?
Breaking Out of the Incel Lifestyle
Ridding yourself of the incel label is easier said than done. It’s very difficult to change the way in which someone thinks, especially if they’ve held a certain belief for a long time. That’s not to say it’s impossible though. Start by motivating yourself and try things you’ve never done before; this could involve working out, picking up new hobbies, and/or travelling to new places. Get an understanding of your situation and figure out how and why you’re in the place you’re in. Get offline and find support in real life. Living inside of an echo chamber can be dangerous as you start to ignore the realities of the world around you. Finally, don’t make sex such a big thing in your life. Stop idealising women and start recognising your own self-worth, the quicker you stop seeing the goal of having sex with a woman as an all-encompassing goal, the better off you’ll be.